Does THE ONE exist?

Modern Love
While post-feminist, single-girl lifestyle has us buying our own diamond rings,and the divorce rate (despite falling in the past few years) still continuing to undermine the institution of marriage, the concept of finding The One- a lifelong companion who lights your fire but who you can also grow old with- is alive and well.
In fact, a study from Rutgers University in New Jersey found that 94% of people in their 20's were holding out for a soul mate before committing to marriage, with 87% believing they'd find that person when they were ready.
Stories of true love continue to appeal to us beyond the Disney diet we were brought up on-its why we glorify Brad and Angelina, and have a copy of The Notebook in our DVD collections. But have we fallen prey to the sould mate myth made popular by Hallmark, Hollywood and Mills & Boon?

Not even the Bible suggests God has created one true love for each of us- in Christian circles. finding someone of noble character is more important than a perfect match.

While our grandparents generally married young and often out of practicality (financial security being of utmost importance), the modern girl is investing in education, career, travel and property, as well as developing her own wide social network, before even considering tying the knot. With more time spent on the singles scene, there are simply more opportunities for men to enter her life-many with soul mate potential. So rather than The One, there may be A Few.

" I believe all our lovers, family members and friends are sould mates in some form, and that they come into our lives to teach us something that's going to make us a better person," -Jane Roder, relationship coach and author.


Finding and loving yourself
" We have to love and respect ourselves before we can give and recieve lasting and fulfilling love."
When we're confident in ourselves, and get busy living our lives, for some reason, a soul mate can sprin up like your boyfriend's mother on a Saturday morning.
If your stressed about finding The One, you won't be putting out good energy.
Desperation and worry aren't attractive frequencies,being present and appreciative gives off a beautiful energy.
You'll find you attract all sorts of wonderful people into your life when you're peaceful, joyful, comfortable and present"


Define what you're looking for
"Being too sexually available to men has a tendency to reduce the change of attracting a committed relationship". Get to know the guy before rushing in.

Do you feel peaceful, good and comfortable in his company?
Do you have sexual chemistry and common interests?
Do you share similar values?

Esentially, what you want is the six C's
Chemistry
Compatibility
Comfort
Companionship
Commitment
Common interests

" A true love is someone that you have a friendship with". " If you're a team, you can share the achievements and support each other during testing times. I recommentd that ou never settle for second best. I believe in finding hte love of your life. He's our there, and when you find him, you'll know =)" Co-authored picture book " True Love" Gillie and Marc Schattner.

However...THE ONE in heaven is a different matter.
Fact no.1 - HE DOES EXIST. (halelujah singing in the background)
Fact no.2 - HE IS NOT VISIBLE IN OUR NAKED EYES BUT HE IS ACTUALLY HERE IN US!
Fact no.3- We often don't believe because we cant see him **I admit =(

So, even if you don't find the one, or maybe you won't find the one true love, don't fret because HE IS ALREADY HERE! (and i mean GOD yea..) So anything u wanna talk to, just talk to him (well , it may seem youre talking to yrself) but...he really listens and before u know it, your life wll be changed. The next day will be a brand new day! believe me=).

Just go with the flow and everything will just be in place ;)
Thats wat i did for sure ;) and will continue to do that........yeehaaaa




**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**