Stay in Agreement
"Know the God of your Father (I have a personal knowledge of Him, be acquainted with, and understand Him; appreciate, heed, and cherish Him) and serve Him with a blameless heart and a willing mind. For the Lord searches all hearts and minds and understands all the wanderings of the thoughts. If you seek Him (inquiring for and of Him and requiring Him as your first and vital necessary) you will find Him." 1 Chronicles 28:9
God's Word reveals a wonderful plan for your life. It shows how God sees you, and what He has for you through Jesus Christ. Keep your thoughts and words in agreement with God's Word.
Say " Everything I lay my hand to prospers and succeeds. I am the head and not the tail, above and not beneath. I am blessed going in and going out. The blessings of God has chase me down and overtake me. God is on my side. I am blessed to be a blessing to everyone I meet today."
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Friday, February 27, 2009
Love
Love
And now I will show you the most excellent way.
If I speak in tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If i give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
And now I will show you the most excellent way.
If I speak in tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If i give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Comfort for God's People
Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
Has it not been told to you from the beggining?
Have you not understood since the earth was founded?
He sits enthroned above the circle of the earth,
and its people are like grasshoppers.
He streches out the heavens like a canopy,
and spreads them out like a tent to live in.
He brings princes to naught
and reduces the rulers of this world to nothing.
No sooner are they planted,
no sooner are they sown,
no sooner do they take root in the ground,
then he blows on them and they wither,
and a whirlwind sweeps them away like chaff.
"To whom will you compare me?
Or who is my equal?" says the Holy One.
Lift your eyes and look to the heavens :
Who created all these?
He who brings out the starry host one by one,
and calls them each by name.
Because of his great power and mighty strength,
not one of them is mising.
Why do you say, O Jacob,
and complain, O Israel,
My way is hidden from the Lord;
my cause disregarded by my God"?
Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
and his understanding no one can fathom.
He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.
Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
Isaiah 40:21-31
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Have you not heard?
Has it not been told to you from the beggining?
Have you not understood since the earth was founded?
He sits enthroned above the circle of the earth,
and its people are like grasshoppers.
He streches out the heavens like a canopy,
and spreads them out like a tent to live in.
He brings princes to naught
and reduces the rulers of this world to nothing.
No sooner are they planted,
no sooner are they sown,
no sooner do they take root in the ground,
then he blows on them and they wither,
and a whirlwind sweeps them away like chaff.
"To whom will you compare me?
Or who is my equal?" says the Holy One.
Lift your eyes and look to the heavens :
Who created all these?
He who brings out the starry host one by one,
and calls them each by name.
Because of his great power and mighty strength,
not one of them is mising.
Why do you say, O Jacob,
and complain, O Israel,
My way is hidden from the Lord;
my cause disregarded by my God"?
Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
and his understanding no one can fathom.
He gives strength to the weary
and increases the power of the weak.
Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.
Isaiah 40:21-31
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
About ka-cheeing
About $$
With money, you can buy a house but not a home
With money, you can buy a clock, but not time
With money, you can buy a bed, but not sleep
With money, you can buy a book, but not knowledge
With money, you can see a doctor, but not good health
With money, you can buy a position, but not respect
With money, you can buy blood, but not life
With money, you can buy sex, but not love
Love of money.
If anyone teaches false doctrines and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, he is conceited and understands nothing. He has an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that resul in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions and constant friction between men of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain.
But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
1 Timothy 6:3-10
" No servant can be the slave of two masters; he will hate one and love the other; he will be loyal to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money." Luke 16:13
Money is not everything.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
With money, you can buy a house but not a home
With money, you can buy a clock, but not time
With money, you can buy a bed, but not sleep
With money, you can buy a book, but not knowledge
With money, you can see a doctor, but not good health
With money, you can buy a position, but not respect
With money, you can buy blood, but not life
With money, you can buy sex, but not love
Love of money.
If anyone teaches false doctrines and does not agree to the sound instruction of our Lord Jesus Christ and to godly teaching, he is conceited and understands nothing. He has an unhealthy interest in controversies and quarrels about words that resul in envy, strife, malicious talk, evil suspicions and constant friction between men of corrupt mind, who have been robbed of the truth and who think that godliness is a means to financial gain.
But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
1 Timothy 6:3-10
" No servant can be the slave of two masters; he will hate one and love the other; he will be loyal to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money." Luke 16:13
Money is not everything.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Day 27, Feb
Be Filled With Truth
Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore will I deliver him; I will set him on high, because he knows and understands My name (has a personal knowledge of My mercy, love, and kindness -- trusts nd relies on Me, knowing I will never forsake him, no, never). Psalm 91:14
Don't let the devil have your thoughts first thing in the morning. Begin erly to get your day started right. As soon as you wake up, tell the Lord you love Him. Read His Word and confess His promises as you prepare for the day.
Listen to teaching tapes while you are driving to work. Fill yourself with knowledge of God's truth. Don't talk yourself into a disaster before the day even begins. Instead say, " I am the righteousness of God in Christ; because He is with me today, I will rejoice in all things.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Because he has set his love upon Me, therefore will I deliver him; I will set him on high, because he knows and understands My name (has a personal knowledge of My mercy, love, and kindness -- trusts nd relies on Me, knowing I will never forsake him, no, never). Psalm 91:14
Don't let the devil have your thoughts first thing in the morning. Begin erly to get your day started right. As soon as you wake up, tell the Lord you love Him. Read His Word and confess His promises as you prepare for the day.
Listen to teaching tapes while you are driving to work. Fill yourself with knowledge of God's truth. Don't talk yourself into a disaster before the day even begins. Instead say, " I am the righteousness of God in Christ; because He is with me today, I will rejoice in all things.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Day 26, Feb
Speak God's Mind
Hear, for I will speak excellent and princely things; and the opening of my lips shall be for right things. - Proverbs 8:6
One of our biggest mistakes we make is that we sometimes answer people too quickly, just giving them something off the top of our head. Only a fool utters his whole mind
(look into Proverbs 29 :11 KJV).
Those who speak frequently and hastily are always in trouble, as the Bible says.
" There are those who speak rashly, like the piercing of the sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing" (Proverbs 12:18)
Jesus operates in wisdom. He always knew just the right thing to say, at just the righ moment, to astound everybody. If we don't spend enough time with God, we will say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Decide to wait on God before speaking your mind today.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Hear, for I will speak excellent and princely things; and the opening of my lips shall be for right things. - Proverbs 8:6
One of our biggest mistakes we make is that we sometimes answer people too quickly, just giving them something off the top of our head. Only a fool utters his whole mind
(look into Proverbs 29 :11 KJV).
Those who speak frequently and hastily are always in trouble, as the Bible says.
" There are those who speak rashly, like the piercing of the sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing" (Proverbs 12:18)
Jesus operates in wisdom. He always knew just the right thing to say, at just the righ moment, to astound everybody. If we don't spend enough time with God, we will say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Decide to wait on God before speaking your mind today.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
dreams
don't you think that whatever we dream will make us wonder
" What if its really going to happen?"
taboo?
Well, it may. I have experience. Maybe not exactly the same situation (tho it may be) but close to it. Example; i dreamnt of something that i reacted to stunned and so so so sad and really i unconciously felt it for a different situation (well i was ok after that..hehe)
irony.
Tho we really wonder. Thus dreams come from God? Do we dream so much because its something God wants to show us?A sign, a warning, a prophecy like people in the bible experience..? Or is it coz were too tired?
Something to think about.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
" What if its really going to happen?"
taboo?
Well, it may. I have experience. Maybe not exactly the same situation (tho it may be) but close to it. Example; i dreamnt of something that i reacted to stunned and so so so sad and really i unconciously felt it for a different situation (well i was ok after that..hehe)
irony.
Tho we really wonder. Thus dreams come from God? Do we dream so much because its something God wants to show us?A sign, a warning, a prophecy like people in the bible experience..? Or is it coz were too tired?
Something to think about.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Before we act...
Question yourself
" What would you think or feel or react if anything you told or act or thought about the person is you"
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
" What would you think or feel or react if anything you told or act or thought about the person is you"
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Beware the LIFE BULLIES
So, your friend's just scored a swanky new job/bloke/life - and you're happy for her...you really are. Well, you would be if she'd shut up about it.
"Love live bully"
It doesn't matter wheter you're single or coupled up, you could still fall foul of a love life bully, as J found out when her friend, S, met a new guy online. " Earlier last year, S said she fancied trying internet dating. So she joined a popular dating website, ad met her boyfriend, M, six months ago. When she triedto persuade me to try it, I told her I didn't want to trawl the web to meet someone. But she wouldn't let iot go. One day I lost it and told her to leave me alone. Thankfully, she's now realised how much she was upsetting me."
And let's not forget the break-up bully. Suddenly single, she's back on the dating scene with a vengeance and she wants you as her wing-woman! If you're solo, you'll probably start to worry you'll never actually meet anyone if you don't go along with her wacky dating schemes; if you're attached, seeing her having" so much fun" might make you think you're missing out.
Beat the Bully
Don't lose your cool every time she mentions the words "speed" and " date" in the same sentence - you need to accept that you can't change a life bully, only your reactions to them.
" If you're on the recieving end of someone saying how wonderful their new life is, step back and say, ' I'm okay with my life',"
" If a friend meets a man online and sys you should do the same, all you have to say is,' I'm glad it's worked out for you, but i;m happy as I am now'," (therapist Caron Barruw)
Youre pal needs to understand that what's right for her love life isn't necessarily right for yours.
"Work Life" Bully
Who can say, hand on heart, they don't feel a teeny tremor of panic when a friend lands an amazing new job? Often, it'll send you into a spiral of self-doubt about your own career.
C, accidentally became a work life bully when she swapped her job in finance for a shiny new role in publishing. " L and I always had similar roles in finance companies, so when I finally managed to get out, I tried to encourage her to do the same. I'd tell her how I couldn't imagine spending all morning in a boring boardroom anymore. I was trying to show her I was living proof that she could escape her mind-numbing job, but I just made her feel bad about herself. When she finally told me how she felt, I was mortified."
Beat the Bully
"It's natural to feel jealous when a friend lands a new terrific job but try to use her success as a chance to look at your own goals. If you're not happy where you are, fine; if not, it's a good time to reassess where you want to be and how you're going to get there." (therapist Caron Barruw)
"Home Life" Bully
How many times have you logged onto Facebook to see a picture of your mate on top of some mountain in Timbuktu, or your friend who's just recieved the keys to her shiny new flat? Where home life bullies are concerned, it seems their only goal is t make you feel miserable.
C, from the UK, knows all about this. " When M moved to Sydney, I was pleased for her. But, after a while, the tone of her status updates started getting to me. She'd write things like, ' M is enjoying the sunshine. Stuff English summers' It felt like she was looking down on everyone stupid enough to still want to live in the UK. It got to the point where I almost de-friended her!"
Beat the Bully
When I became a bully, I wasn't looking down on the friends I'd left behind; I just wanted to be reassured that I'd made the right choice in leaving my brilliant job. " Life bullies seem confident, but some of them are actually insecure. Telling them,' You're so right to have made that decision', is often all they need," (therapist Caron Barruw)
** or they may even just want to make u think that they're doing fine over there=)
"Body" Bully
Here's one we all recognise: the body bully.
She's that annoying girl at work who's always harping on about how much weight she's lost on her new detox diet, or the friend who ditches girls' nights out for early morning sessions on the treadmill and wants you as her gym partner. It's something K, experienced when her best friend, J, went macrobiotic.
" J and I were always roughtly the same size, 12-14, but, when she got a new job, she decided she wanted to lost weight to keep up with her skinny colleagues. Within six months, she'd gone from a size 12 to a size 8 ( ausi size). She looked amazing, and I was really pleased for her. But the she started to nag me about the foods I ate and how little exercise I did. Suddenly, I started questioning if I did need to lose a few kilos. When she presented me with a detailed exercise and eating plan she'd drawn up for me. I had to explain to her that I was happy the way I was."
Beat the Bully
" The key to all these issues is to be sure of who you are,"
" If they don't feel confident, most people buy into the insecurity and end up competing with that person. You should simply say, ' It's not a life choice I want to make, but I understand why it works for you'," (therapist Caron Barruw)
And hopefully they'll leave it all that!
Live and Let Live
But don't be too hard on life bullies- they do have your best interests at heart. And, if their happiness forces you to address a part of your life that's making you unhappy, then they've done you a favour. After all, there's probably a life bully inside us all, just waiting for the right opportunity to pounce.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
"Love live bully"
It doesn't matter wheter you're single or coupled up, you could still fall foul of a love life bully, as J found out when her friend, S, met a new guy online. " Earlier last year, S said she fancied trying internet dating. So she joined a popular dating website, ad met her boyfriend, M, six months ago. When she triedto persuade me to try it, I told her I didn't want to trawl the web to meet someone. But she wouldn't let iot go. One day I lost it and told her to leave me alone. Thankfully, she's now realised how much she was upsetting me."
And let's not forget the break-up bully. Suddenly single, she's back on the dating scene with a vengeance and she wants you as her wing-woman! If you're solo, you'll probably start to worry you'll never actually meet anyone if you don't go along with her wacky dating schemes; if you're attached, seeing her having" so much fun" might make you think you're missing out.
Beat the Bully
Don't lose your cool every time she mentions the words "speed" and " date" in the same sentence - you need to accept that you can't change a life bully, only your reactions to them.
" If you're on the recieving end of someone saying how wonderful their new life is, step back and say, ' I'm okay with my life',"
" If a friend meets a man online and sys you should do the same, all you have to say is,' I'm glad it's worked out for you, but i;m happy as I am now'," (therapist Caron Barruw)
Youre pal needs to understand that what's right for her love life isn't necessarily right for yours.
"Work Life" Bully
Who can say, hand on heart, they don't feel a teeny tremor of panic when a friend lands an amazing new job? Often, it'll send you into a spiral of self-doubt about your own career.
C, accidentally became a work life bully when she swapped her job in finance for a shiny new role in publishing. " L and I always had similar roles in finance companies, so when I finally managed to get out, I tried to encourage her to do the same. I'd tell her how I couldn't imagine spending all morning in a boring boardroom anymore. I was trying to show her I was living proof that she could escape her mind-numbing job, but I just made her feel bad about herself. When she finally told me how she felt, I was mortified."
Beat the Bully
"It's natural to feel jealous when a friend lands a new terrific job but try to use her success as a chance to look at your own goals. If you're not happy where you are, fine; if not, it's a good time to reassess where you want to be and how you're going to get there." (therapist Caron Barruw)
"Home Life" Bully
How many times have you logged onto Facebook to see a picture of your mate on top of some mountain in Timbuktu, or your friend who's just recieved the keys to her shiny new flat? Where home life bullies are concerned, it seems their only goal is t make you feel miserable.
C, from the UK, knows all about this. " When M moved to Sydney, I was pleased for her. But, after a while, the tone of her status updates started getting to me. She'd write things like, ' M is enjoying the sunshine. Stuff English summers' It felt like she was looking down on everyone stupid enough to still want to live in the UK. It got to the point where I almost de-friended her!"
Beat the Bully
When I became a bully, I wasn't looking down on the friends I'd left behind; I just wanted to be reassured that I'd made the right choice in leaving my brilliant job. " Life bullies seem confident, but some of them are actually insecure. Telling them,' You're so right to have made that decision', is often all they need," (therapist Caron Barruw)
** or they may even just want to make u think that they're doing fine over there=)
"Body" Bully
Here's one we all recognise: the body bully.
She's that annoying girl at work who's always harping on about how much weight she's lost on her new detox diet, or the friend who ditches girls' nights out for early morning sessions on the treadmill and wants you as her gym partner. It's something K, experienced when her best friend, J, went macrobiotic.
" J and I were always roughtly the same size, 12-14, but, when she got a new job, she decided she wanted to lost weight to keep up with her skinny colleagues. Within six months, she'd gone from a size 12 to a size 8 ( ausi size). She looked amazing, and I was really pleased for her. But the she started to nag me about the foods I ate and how little exercise I did. Suddenly, I started questioning if I did need to lose a few kilos. When she presented me with a detailed exercise and eating plan she'd drawn up for me. I had to explain to her that I was happy the way I was."
Beat the Bully
" The key to all these issues is to be sure of who you are,"
" If they don't feel confident, most people buy into the insecurity and end up competing with that person. You should simply say, ' It's not a life choice I want to make, but I understand why it works for you'," (therapist Caron Barruw)
And hopefully they'll leave it all that!
Live and Let Live
But don't be too hard on life bullies- they do have your best interests at heart. And, if their happiness forces you to address a part of your life that's making you unhappy, then they've done you a favour. After all, there's probably a life bully inside us all, just waiting for the right opportunity to pounce.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
80/20 rule.
Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?'
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship. But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT .But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says:
'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..'
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiettype, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have! That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage.
I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are FIRST CLASS!
Still the 110% has to be the one and only GOD!
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship. But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT .But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature. You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says:
'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..'
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiettype, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have. Don't throw away the 80% that you already have! That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage.
I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are FIRST CLASS!
Still the 110% has to be the one and only GOD!
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Teen syndrome
What is Asperger Syndrome like?
*People with Asperger syndrome find it hard to relate to other people.
*They may talk a lot about their own interests, but have problems getting the message across or giving others the chance to talk.
*They have trouble understanding the feelings of other people and they do not seem able to read body language. For example, a person with Asperger syndrome may not realise when they have hurt someone's feelings, or when someone doesn't want to listen to them.
*They like everything to be the same, and everything to be in the right place. They can get very upset if something is done 'the wrong way'.
*The effects of Asperger syndrome can vary from slightly unusual behaviour to quite aggressive and anti-social behaviour.
*Some people who are said to be eccentric loners may have Asperger syndrome.
*Many great scientists, writers and artists are thought to have had Asperger syndrome, including many Nobel Prize winners.
It affects people all of their lives but as people get older they get better at social and coping skills.
People with Asperger syndrome can do well when others understand the effects of the syndrome on their behaviour and learning, and provide a supportive environment.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
*People with Asperger syndrome find it hard to relate to other people.
*They may talk a lot about their own interests, but have problems getting the message across or giving others the chance to talk.
*They have trouble understanding the feelings of other people and they do not seem able to read body language. For example, a person with Asperger syndrome may not realise when they have hurt someone's feelings, or when someone doesn't want to listen to them.
*They like everything to be the same, and everything to be in the right place. They can get very upset if something is done 'the wrong way'.
*The effects of Asperger syndrome can vary from slightly unusual behaviour to quite aggressive and anti-social behaviour.
*Some people who are said to be eccentric loners may have Asperger syndrome.
*Many great scientists, writers and artists are thought to have had Asperger syndrome, including many Nobel Prize winners.
It affects people all of their lives but as people get older they get better at social and coping skills.
People with Asperger syndrome can do well when others understand the effects of the syndrome on their behaviour and learning, and provide a supportive environment.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Some food for thoughts
Do you know that people who's sad needs sweet things to improve their appetite?
Ever wonder why people who is love sick or heart broken eat ice cream or chocolates?
Ever wonder why children are always carefree and happy?
Its partly the psychological thinking that makes ur appetite improve.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Ever wonder why people who is love sick or heart broken eat ice cream or chocolates?
Ever wonder why children are always carefree and happy?
Its partly the psychological thinking that makes ur appetite improve.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Change..
At some point, maybe ur not too happy with yourself. You have resolutions to follow. You step up and u change. Wooooahhh not so easy isn't it. Its hard. You go through alot. People comment. You frust. People take for granted. Youre sad. You worry.
But i don't think that's the solution. We gotto at some point LET IT GO.
parents nag.
We shouldn't slam the door back at them. let it go. think rationally why did they do this. For exp : ground you, set curfew, limit your allowance, limit your phone calls etc. Maybe its to put a good reputation to the family. Yes i know what you're thinking. "Who would we teens think of such as these" haha. Try to then. It isn't hard.
People comment on something you think is not rational to you.
Nicely say " you don't have to comment so much you know". Different people have different thinking. We're all different. Just accept as a constructive criticism and let it go.
You get so frust on petty little things.
You think too much. The world's got bigger problems. How are you gonna handle the BIGGER problems when you can't even handle some ones.(its in the bible) Change your perception, thinking. Don't think so negative. Get a grib. Don't bother so much on what people haven told you. They may not even think so. Your mind is playing with you.
If you wanna change, you gotto act on it. Say you really wanna change and make a point to that. Make sure ur progressing and not going the opposite direction. You may go through a lot before finding the right door to CHANGE.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
But i don't think that's the solution. We gotto at some point LET IT GO.
parents nag.
We shouldn't slam the door back at them. let it go. think rationally why did they do this. For exp : ground you, set curfew, limit your allowance, limit your phone calls etc. Maybe its to put a good reputation to the family. Yes i know what you're thinking. "Who would we teens think of such as these" haha. Try to then. It isn't hard.
People comment on something you think is not rational to you.
Nicely say " you don't have to comment so much you know". Different people have different thinking. We're all different. Just accept as a constructive criticism and let it go.
You get so frust on petty little things.
You think too much. The world's got bigger problems. How are you gonna handle the BIGGER problems when you can't even handle some ones.(its in the bible) Change your perception, thinking. Don't think so negative. Get a grib. Don't bother so much on what people haven told you. They may not even think so. Your mind is playing with you.
If you wanna change, you gotto act on it. Say you really wanna change and make a point to that. Make sure ur progressing and not going the opposite direction. You may go through a lot before finding the right door to CHANGE.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Horiscopes
VIRGO -
The Perfectionist.
Dominant in relationships..
Conservative.
Always wants the last word.
Argumentative.
Worries.
Very smart.
Dislikes noise and chaos.
Eager.
Hardworking.
Loyal.
Beautiful.
Easy to talk to.
Hard to please.
Harsh.
Practical and very fussy.
Often shy.
Pessimistic.
SCORPIO -
The Intense One.
Very energetic.
Intelligent.
Can be jealous and/or possessive.
Hardworking.
Great kisser.
Can become obsessive or secretive.
Holds grudges.
Attractive.
Determined.
Loves being in long relationships.
Talkative.
Romantic.
Can be self-centered at times.
Passionate and Emotional.
LIBRA -
The Harmonizer.
Nice to everyone they meet.
Can't make up their mind.
Have own unique appeal.
Creative, energetic, and very socialble.
Hates to be alone.
Peaceful, generous.
Very loving and beautiful.
Flirtatious.
Give in too easily.
Procrastinators.
Very gullible.
ARIES -
The Daredevil.
Energetic.
Adventurous and spontaneous.
Confident and enthusiastic.
Fun.
Loves a challenge...
EXTREMELY impatient.
Sometimes selfish.
Short fuse.
(Easily angered.)
Lively, passionate, and sharp wit.
Outgoing.
Lose interest quickly - easily bored.
Egotistical.
Courageous and assertive.
Tends to be physical and athletic.
AQUARIUS -
The Sweetheart.
Optimistic and honest.
Sweet personality.
Very independent.
Inventive and intelligent.
Friendly and loyal.
Can seem unemotional.
Can be a bit rebellious.
Very stubborn, but original and unique Attractiveness on the inside and out.
Eccentric personality.
GEMINI -
The Chatterbox.
Smart and witty.
Outgoing.
Lively, energetic.
Adaptable but needs to express themselves.
Argumentative and outspoken.
Likes change.
Versatile.
Busy, sometimes nervous and tense.
Gossips.
May seem superficial or inconsistent, but is only changeable.
Beautiful physically and mentally.
LEO -
The Boss.
Very organized.
Need order in their lives - like being in control.
Like boundaries.
Tend to take over everything.
Bossy.
Like to help others.
Social and outgoing.
Extroverted.
Generous, warm-hearted.
Sensitive.
Creative energy.
Full of themselves.
Loving.
Doing the right thing is important to Leos.
Attractive.
CANCER -
The Protector.
Moody, emotional.
May be shy.
Very loving and caring.
Pretty/handsome.
Excellent partners for life.
Protective.
Inventive and imaginative.
Cautious.
Touchy-feely kind of person.
Needs love from others.
Easily hurt, but sympathetic.
PISCES -
The Dreamer.
Generous, kind, and thoughtful.
Very creative and imaginative.
May become secretive and vague.
Sensitive.
Don't like details.
Dreamy and unrealistic.
Sympathetic and loving.
Kind.
Unselfish.
Good kisser.
Beautiful.
CAPRICORN -
The Go-Getter.
Patient and wise.
Practical and rigid.
Ambitious.
Tends to be good-looking.
Humorous and funny.
Can be a bit shy and reserved.
Often pessimists.
Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be unfriendly at times.
Hold grudges.
Like competition.
Get what they want.
TAURUS -
The Enduring One.
Charming but aggressive.
Can come off as boring, but they are not.
Hard workers.
Warm-hearted.
Strong, has endurance.
Solid beings who are stable and secure in their ways.
Not looking for shortcuts.
Take pride in their beauty.
Patient and reliable.
Make great friends and give good advice.
Loving and kind.
Loves hard - passionate.
Express themselves emotionally.
Prone to ferocious temper-tantrums.
Determined.
Indulge themselves often.
Very generous.
SAGITTARIUS -
The Happy-Go-Lucky.
One Good-natured optimist.
Doesn't want to grow up (Peter Pan Syndrome).
Indulges self.
Boastful.
Likes luxuries and gambling.
Social and outgoing.
Doesn't like responsibilities.
Often fantasizes.
Impatient.
Fun to be around.
Having lots of friends.
Flirtatious.
Doesn't like rules.
Sometimes hypocritical.
Dislikes being confined - tight spaces or even tight clothes.
Doesn't like being doubted.
Beautiful inside and out.
Horiscopes...
are made as a form of entertainment. Don't tell me most of us are not interested at reading these things especially when their applicable to u and ur life. We all are at some point. The characteristics they give are very interesting especially when some of them u come across and u say " oh..that sounds like me". Well, most of them can be but what about the other characteristics you come to that DOESNT sound like u?
ok an example. Im a Capricorn.
So one of the characteristics that sounds like me is maybe competition. I like to compare, compete and always beat the best (ie: ego). But what characteristics that doesnt sound like me is like unfriendly at times and hold grudges. I certainly don't do that. But wait, i would probably ponder at the rest of the characteristics and think..." am i actually like that". Theres the bad thing. We would actually be lead and influence to follow those characteristics that are not even who i am. Misleading huh?
Not only on characteristics. The same goes for situations like in the newpaper we always read.
" you have a bad day today. Something is going to happen. Be carefull when handling your finances and avoid quarrells. etc etc"
How do you know if thats going to happen?The more we think that things are gonna happen, it would most probably happen because we are so conscious over it. Basically our lives are handled by God. He has every single day planned out for us nicely. Wheter its a bad start or a good start he has a reason for this. It may even be a blessings in disguise. However, he gives us the choice as well. So, whenever we start off badly, we will frust and be so worked up that the whole day will be a bad one. What we react will affect our day. Lets face it. Nobody on earth is God. Only the One Up There. Every religion confirms this fact.
Thus, if anything like horiscopes or astrological signs do make u worry and think, don't be because The Big Guy Up There will take good care of it. We just have to go on with our lives on earth, not forgetting that He is Always there for us. =)
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
The Perfectionist.
Dominant in relationships..
Conservative.
Always wants the last word.
Argumentative.
Worries.
Very smart.
Dislikes noise and chaos.
Eager.
Hardworking.
Loyal.
Beautiful.
Easy to talk to.
Hard to please.
Harsh.
Practical and very fussy.
Often shy.
Pessimistic.
SCORPIO -
The Intense One.
Very energetic.
Intelligent.
Can be jealous and/or possessive.
Hardworking.
Great kisser.
Can become obsessive or secretive.
Holds grudges.
Attractive.
Determined.
Loves being in long relationships.
Talkative.
Romantic.
Can be self-centered at times.
Passionate and Emotional.
LIBRA -
The Harmonizer.
Nice to everyone they meet.
Can't make up their mind.
Have own unique appeal.
Creative, energetic, and very socialble.
Hates to be alone.
Peaceful, generous.
Very loving and beautiful.
Flirtatious.
Give in too easily.
Procrastinators.
Very gullible.
ARIES -
The Daredevil.
Energetic.
Adventurous and spontaneous.
Confident and enthusiastic.
Fun.
Loves a challenge...
EXTREMELY impatient.
Sometimes selfish.
Short fuse.
(Easily angered.)
Lively, passionate, and sharp wit.
Outgoing.
Lose interest quickly - easily bored.
Egotistical.
Courageous and assertive.
Tends to be physical and athletic.
AQUARIUS -
The Sweetheart.
Optimistic and honest.
Sweet personality.
Very independent.
Inventive and intelligent.
Friendly and loyal.
Can seem unemotional.
Can be a bit rebellious.
Very stubborn, but original and unique Attractiveness on the inside and out.
Eccentric personality.
GEMINI -
The Chatterbox.
Smart and witty.
Outgoing.
Lively, energetic.
Adaptable but needs to express themselves.
Argumentative and outspoken.
Likes change.
Versatile.
Busy, sometimes nervous and tense.
Gossips.
May seem superficial or inconsistent, but is only changeable.
Beautiful physically and mentally.
LEO -
The Boss.
Very organized.
Need order in their lives - like being in control.
Like boundaries.
Tend to take over everything.
Bossy.
Like to help others.
Social and outgoing.
Extroverted.
Generous, warm-hearted.
Sensitive.
Creative energy.
Full of themselves.
Loving.
Doing the right thing is important to Leos.
Attractive.
CANCER -
The Protector.
Moody, emotional.
May be shy.
Very loving and caring.
Pretty/handsome.
Excellent partners for life.
Protective.
Inventive and imaginative.
Cautious.
Touchy-feely kind of person.
Needs love from others.
Easily hurt, but sympathetic.
PISCES -
The Dreamer.
Generous, kind, and thoughtful.
Very creative and imaginative.
May become secretive and vague.
Sensitive.
Don't like details.
Dreamy and unrealistic.
Sympathetic and loving.
Kind.
Unselfish.
Good kisser.
Beautiful.
CAPRICORN -
The Go-Getter.
Patient and wise.
Practical and rigid.
Ambitious.
Tends to be good-looking.
Humorous and funny.
Can be a bit shy and reserved.
Often pessimists.
Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be unfriendly at times.
Hold grudges.
Like competition.
Get what they want.
TAURUS -
The Enduring One.
Charming but aggressive.
Can come off as boring, but they are not.
Hard workers.
Warm-hearted.
Strong, has endurance.
Solid beings who are stable and secure in their ways.
Not looking for shortcuts.
Take pride in their beauty.
Patient and reliable.
Make great friends and give good advice.
Loving and kind.
Loves hard - passionate.
Express themselves emotionally.
Prone to ferocious temper-tantrums.
Determined.
Indulge themselves often.
Very generous.
SAGITTARIUS -
The Happy-Go-Lucky.
One Good-natured optimist.
Doesn't want to grow up (Peter Pan Syndrome).
Indulges self.
Boastful.
Likes luxuries and gambling.
Social and outgoing.
Doesn't like responsibilities.
Often fantasizes.
Impatient.
Fun to be around.
Having lots of friends.
Flirtatious.
Doesn't like rules.
Sometimes hypocritical.
Dislikes being confined - tight spaces or even tight clothes.
Doesn't like being doubted.
Beautiful inside and out.
Horiscopes...
are made as a form of entertainment. Don't tell me most of us are not interested at reading these things especially when their applicable to u and ur life. We all are at some point. The characteristics they give are very interesting especially when some of them u come across and u say " oh..that sounds like me". Well, most of them can be but what about the other characteristics you come to that DOESNT sound like u?
ok an example. Im a Capricorn.
So one of the characteristics that sounds like me is maybe competition. I like to compare, compete and always beat the best (ie: ego). But what characteristics that doesnt sound like me is like unfriendly at times and hold grudges. I certainly don't do that. But wait, i would probably ponder at the rest of the characteristics and think..." am i actually like that". Theres the bad thing. We would actually be lead and influence to follow those characteristics that are not even who i am. Misleading huh?
Not only on characteristics. The same goes for situations like in the newpaper we always read.
" you have a bad day today. Something is going to happen. Be carefull when handling your finances and avoid quarrells. etc etc"
How do you know if thats going to happen?The more we think that things are gonna happen, it would most probably happen because we are so conscious over it. Basically our lives are handled by God. He has every single day planned out for us nicely. Wheter its a bad start or a good start he has a reason for this. It may even be a blessings in disguise. However, he gives us the choice as well. So, whenever we start off badly, we will frust and be so worked up that the whole day will be a bad one. What we react will affect our day. Lets face it. Nobody on earth is God. Only the One Up There. Every religion confirms this fact.
Thus, if anything like horiscopes or astrological signs do make u worry and think, don't be because The Big Guy Up There will take good care of it. We just have to go on with our lives on earth, not forgetting that He is Always there for us. =)
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Speaking The Truth In Love =)
* speaking in truth- Some people doubt when science influence come in, wheter the scripture tells the truth or not?its hard to tell the truth because we sin and rather lie to run away from something or to avoid ourselves getting in trouble or to please other people. we get that perception but the truth is, we have to be honest and tell the truth so that it will strenghten our relationship in Christ. He tells us to tell the truth (refer to scripture).God gave disciples and apostles and preachers to abstain away from all withcraft that covers all truth of the Word.
* but when speaking in truth, love comes in as well.-we must also tell the truth with respect,gentleness, humility, patience. but some researches have said that is beyond speaking truth gently, we must speak with the right attitude and spirit
Love resembles Christ especially when he sacrificially died for us.
Its not the nails that kept him , its his LOVE.
the two must go together. Love and truth. Both are inseparable because
"Truth without love is brutality, but love without truth is hypocrisy".(i like this .hehe) and God shows both qualities and expects us to have the same qualities as well.
A good leader will gain trust and intimacy in thier relationship with their member, comittee or even normal fwens. These will commit to a loving relationship, a relationship that will put God 1st in everything, they will think that God says that it is good to retain yr marriage/relationship despite the rocks their going thru, etc
* We are to grow in EVERY way towards the very aim of Jesus Christ being the head. Not only the quantity and quality but in every possible small way. Do you know that each one of us has a little part to play in the church. Even if you help in distributing buletins or just helping up stack chairs, youre doing a great part to the Church. how small, resembles how big yr heart is for God doing little small things that could either be a blessing to others. That is why we need to join forces and remind every one in our congregation that a small part they contribute can bring a big difference to our church as well as other spiritual growth.=)
we must always remember that we have to focus on Jesus always to grow in the right direction. We have to remember what Christ willingly did as a human form. He experienced the same condition, the same temptation but he wasn't tempted at all, so we have to take note and continue to use Christ as a example because he is the one and only PERFECT example. No one else.In all our troubles, he knows what your going through because he has gone thru in himself so in anythin you are having a burden in ur heart, always talk to him and trust that the next day will be a bright new start of ur life with Him.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
* but when speaking in truth, love comes in as well.-we must also tell the truth with respect,gentleness, humility, patience. but some researches have said that is beyond speaking truth gently, we must speak with the right attitude and spirit
Love resembles Christ especially when he sacrificially died for us.
Its not the nails that kept him , its his LOVE.
the two must go together. Love and truth. Both are inseparable because
"Truth without love is brutality, but love without truth is hypocrisy".(i like this .hehe) and God shows both qualities and expects us to have the same qualities as well.
A good leader will gain trust and intimacy in thier relationship with their member, comittee or even normal fwens. These will commit to a loving relationship, a relationship that will put God 1st in everything, they will think that God says that it is good to retain yr marriage/relationship despite the rocks their going thru, etc
* We are to grow in EVERY way towards the very aim of Jesus Christ being the head. Not only the quantity and quality but in every possible small way. Do you know that each one of us has a little part to play in the church. Even if you help in distributing buletins or just helping up stack chairs, youre doing a great part to the Church. how small, resembles how big yr heart is for God doing little small things that could either be a blessing to others. That is why we need to join forces and remind every one in our congregation that a small part they contribute can bring a big difference to our church as well as other spiritual growth.=)
we must always remember that we have to focus on Jesus always to grow in the right direction. We have to remember what Christ willingly did as a human form. He experienced the same condition, the same temptation but he wasn't tempted at all, so we have to take note and continue to use Christ as a example because he is the one and only PERFECT example. No one else.In all our troubles, he knows what your going through because he has gone thru in himself so in anythin you are having a burden in ur heart, always talk to him and trust that the next day will be a bright new start of ur life with Him.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Day 25, Feb
Get Alone With God
"But when you pray, go into your (most) private room, and, closing the door, pray to your Father, Who is in secret, and your Father, Who sees in secret, will reward you in the open"- Matthew 6:6
Jesus rose early to be alone with God, but Peter pursued Him to let Him know that everyone was looking for Him
(Mark 1:25-26) " Jesus ordered the spirit, " Be quiet and come out of the man!" The evil spirit shook the man hard, gave a loud scream, and came out of him.
When you get alone to pray, it may seem that everybody tries to hunt you down. But Jesus sought time alone with God so he could focus on his purpose.
We see the scenario of Jesus praying alone and then meeting the need of others again and again. Jesus went through Galilee preaching and driving out demons. When a leper begged to be clean, Jesus touched him, and the leprosy completely left him
( Mark 1:39-42 ) " So he travelled all over Galilee, preaching in the synagogues and driving out demons. A man suffering from a dreaded skin-disease came to Jesus, knelt down, and begged him for help. " IF you want to, " he said, " you can make me clean." Jesus was filled with pity, and stretched out his hand and touched him. " I do want to," he answered. " Be clean!". At once the disease left the man, and he was clean.
If Jesus needed to be alone with the Father before He ministered to others, so do we.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
"But when you pray, go into your (most) private room, and, closing the door, pray to your Father, Who is in secret, and your Father, Who sees in secret, will reward you in the open"- Matthew 6:6
Jesus rose early to be alone with God, but Peter pursued Him to let Him know that everyone was looking for Him
(Mark 1:25-26) " Jesus ordered the spirit, " Be quiet and come out of the man!" The evil spirit shook the man hard, gave a loud scream, and came out of him.
When you get alone to pray, it may seem that everybody tries to hunt you down. But Jesus sought time alone with God so he could focus on his purpose.
We see the scenario of Jesus praying alone and then meeting the need of others again and again. Jesus went through Galilee preaching and driving out demons. When a leper begged to be clean, Jesus touched him, and the leprosy completely left him
( Mark 1:39-42 ) " So he travelled all over Galilee, preaching in the synagogues and driving out demons. A man suffering from a dreaded skin-disease came to Jesus, knelt down, and begged him for help. " IF you want to, " he said, " you can make me clean." Jesus was filled with pity, and stretched out his hand and touched him. " I do want to," he answered. " Be clean!". At once the disease left the man, and he was clean.
If Jesus needed to be alone with the Father before He ministered to others, so do we.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Does THE ONE exist?
Modern Love
While post-feminist, single-girl lifestyle has us buying our own diamond rings,and the divorce rate (despite falling in the past few years) still continuing to undermine the institution of marriage, the concept of finding The One- a lifelong companion who lights your fire but who you can also grow old with- is alive and well.
In fact, a study from Rutgers University in New Jersey found that 94% of people in their 20's were holding out for a soul mate before committing to marriage, with 87% believing they'd find that person when they were ready.
Stories of true love continue to appeal to us beyond the Disney diet we were brought up on-its why we glorify Brad and Angelina, and have a copy of The Notebook in our DVD collections. But have we fallen prey to the sould mate myth made popular by Hallmark, Hollywood and Mills & Boon?
Not even the Bible suggests God has created one true love for each of us- in Christian circles. finding someone of noble character is more important than a perfect match.
While our grandparents generally married young and often out of practicality (financial security being of utmost importance), the modern girl is investing in education, career, travel and property, as well as developing her own wide social network, before even considering tying the knot. With more time spent on the singles scene, there are simply more opportunities for men to enter her life-many with soul mate potential. So rather than The One, there may be A Few.
" I believe all our lovers, family members and friends are sould mates in some form, and that they come into our lives to teach us something that's going to make us a better person," -Jane Roder, relationship coach and author.
Finding and loving yourself
" We have to love and respect ourselves before we can give and recieve lasting and fulfilling love."
When we're confident in ourselves, and get busy living our lives, for some reason, a soul mate can sprin up like your boyfriend's mother on a Saturday morning.
If your stressed about finding The One, you won't be putting out good energy.
Desperation and worry aren't attractive frequencies,being present and appreciative gives off a beautiful energy.
You'll find you attract all sorts of wonderful people into your life when you're peaceful, joyful, comfortable and present"
Define what you're looking for
"Being too sexually available to men has a tendency to reduce the change of attracting a committed relationship". Get to know the guy before rushing in.
Do you feel peaceful, good and comfortable in his company?
Do you have sexual chemistry and common interests?
Do you share similar values?
Esentially, what you want is the six C's
Chemistry
Compatibility
Comfort
Companionship
Commitment
Common interests
" A true love is someone that you have a friendship with". " If you're a team, you can share the achievements and support each other during testing times. I recommentd that ou never settle for second best. I believe in finding hte love of your life. He's our there, and when you find him, you'll know =)" Co-authored picture book " True Love" Gillie and Marc Schattner.
However...THE ONE in heaven is a different matter.
Fact no.1 - HE DOES EXIST. (halelujah singing in the background)
Fact no.2 - HE IS NOT VISIBLE IN OUR NAKED EYES BUT HE IS ACTUALLY HERE IN US!
Fact no.3- We often don't believe because we cant see him **I admit =(
So, even if you don't find the one, or maybe you won't find the one true love, don't fret because HE IS ALREADY HERE! (and i mean GOD yea..) So anything u wanna talk to, just talk to him (well , it may seem youre talking to yrself) but...he really listens and before u know it, your life wll be changed. The next day will be a brand new day! believe me=).
Just go with the flow and everything will just be in place ;)
Thats wat i did for sure ;) and will continue to do that........yeehaaaa
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
While post-feminist, single-girl lifestyle has us buying our own diamond rings,and the divorce rate (despite falling in the past few years) still continuing to undermine the institution of marriage, the concept of finding The One- a lifelong companion who lights your fire but who you can also grow old with- is alive and well.
In fact, a study from Rutgers University in New Jersey found that 94% of people in their 20's were holding out for a soul mate before committing to marriage, with 87% believing they'd find that person when they were ready.
Stories of true love continue to appeal to us beyond the Disney diet we were brought up on-its why we glorify Brad and Angelina, and have a copy of The Notebook in our DVD collections. But have we fallen prey to the sould mate myth made popular by Hallmark, Hollywood and Mills & Boon?
Not even the Bible suggests God has created one true love for each of us- in Christian circles. finding someone of noble character is more important than a perfect match.
While our grandparents generally married young and often out of practicality (financial security being of utmost importance), the modern girl is investing in education, career, travel and property, as well as developing her own wide social network, before even considering tying the knot. With more time spent on the singles scene, there are simply more opportunities for men to enter her life-many with soul mate potential. So rather than The One, there may be A Few.
" I believe all our lovers, family members and friends are sould mates in some form, and that they come into our lives to teach us something that's going to make us a better person," -Jane Roder, relationship coach and author.
Finding and loving yourself
" We have to love and respect ourselves before we can give and recieve lasting and fulfilling love."
When we're confident in ourselves, and get busy living our lives, for some reason, a soul mate can sprin up like your boyfriend's mother on a Saturday morning.
If your stressed about finding The One, you won't be putting out good energy.
Desperation and worry aren't attractive frequencies,being present and appreciative gives off a beautiful energy.
You'll find you attract all sorts of wonderful people into your life when you're peaceful, joyful, comfortable and present"
Define what you're looking for
"Being too sexually available to men has a tendency to reduce the change of attracting a committed relationship". Get to know the guy before rushing in.
Do you feel peaceful, good and comfortable in his company?
Do you have sexual chemistry and common interests?
Do you share similar values?
Esentially, what you want is the six C's
Chemistry
Compatibility
Comfort
Companionship
Commitment
Common interests
" A true love is someone that you have a friendship with". " If you're a team, you can share the achievements and support each other during testing times. I recommentd that ou never settle for second best. I believe in finding hte love of your life. He's our there, and when you find him, you'll know =)" Co-authored picture book " True Love" Gillie and Marc Schattner.
However...THE ONE in heaven is a different matter.
Fact no.1 - HE DOES EXIST. (halelujah singing in the background)
Fact no.2 - HE IS NOT VISIBLE IN OUR NAKED EYES BUT HE IS ACTUALLY HERE IN US!
Fact no.3- We often don't believe because we cant see him **I admit =(
So, even if you don't find the one, or maybe you won't find the one true love, don't fret because HE IS ALREADY HERE! (and i mean GOD yea..) So anything u wanna talk to, just talk to him (well , it may seem youre talking to yrself) but...he really listens and before u know it, your life wll be changed. The next day will be a brand new day! believe me=).
Just go with the flow and everything will just be in place ;)
Thats wat i did for sure ;) and will continue to do that........yeehaaaa
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
The Power of The POSITIVE!
Changing yourself can be as easy as changing your thoughts - Bessie Recep
Sometimes we think so negative about ourselves. low esteem, low confidence, thinking that whats life worth living for. We get so depressed, cry every night alone, worrying so much about practically everything. Believe me. Your not the only one. However, as i went thru cleo mag, aussie, i came across this article which says the power of positive by Dr Timothy Sharp from the Happiness Institure (thehappinessinstitute.com.au) and psychologist Sharon Bent. It says its ok if we doubt at some point , but learning to recognise negative thoughts and replace them with more constructive ones, can make all the difference. So its time to quiten those "toxic" thinking patterns and let your self-confidence soar!
Negative thought no.1
" IM JUST NOT GOOD ENOUGH"
**People might develop this belief during childhood if their parents were overly criticalor set excessively high standards and says such dialogue encourages self-doubt. " It limits the person from pursuing opportunitie or connecting with people that may actually enhance their sense of self-worth, simply because they think others are ' beyond them'.
Fortunately, there ARE ways to challenge these thoughts
1. Focus on what you're good at
"Aiming for perfection often leads to avoidance, so nothing gets done; accepting something that's less than perfect (so long as you try your best) can lead to far more productivity and ultimately, more happiness."
Negative thought no.2
"ILL NEVER FIND MY SOUL MATE"
The danger with negative mindset is that it can easily create self-fulfilling prophecies.
" People who think like this develop behaviours that are unattractive, or that turn others away if there is some attraction."
Having realistiv expectations of The One- that is, that they may not necessarily be perfect-is crucial.
"Your happiness shouldn't solely depend on your relationship status.
"Embrace responsibility for your own contentment and develop strategies- that don't rely finding the One- to enhance your sense of purpose,"
" Start doing some type of volunteer wok with an organisation that you feel passionately about. You'll soon find this will give you a more positive mindset, which will make you m,ore attractive to thers- and increase your likelihood of meeting a partner."
Negative thought no.3
"I DON'T LIKE MY MIRROR IMAGE"
As women ( or even guys today), we've probably all had days when we've looked in the mirror and not loved what we saw. (to me, somedays i look fat, somedays i look thin,haha!) But are we too hard on ourselves? " Putting surgery and the like aside, we're stuck with what we have; so we wither go throught life feeling miserable about our appearance, or we can accept what we are and get on things,"
" To rid that negative voice, we should think about ourselves more than just a physical entity. "Remind yourself of what strenghts, qualities and beautiful characteristics lie within-even if they're not visible in the mirror"
"you can learn to change your thought pattern in several ways. " each time you look in the mirror, ask yourself, 'What bits do I like? How can i focus more on these bits?,"
"And to say to yourself, ' So what if I don't like what I see in the mirror, others do!" ( or vice versa=))
Negative thought No.4
" MY FRIENDS ARE MORE SUCCESSFUL"
We're all guilty of making comparisons, but it's unhealthy to do so at the expense of your own cnfidence.
Case in point L You may think your friend's prestigious, well-paying job is the souce of her happiness, leading you to question your own acheivements on the work front.(or school in that matter)
" Ask yourself, ' What does success look and sound like to me?"
" If, in one years time, your were reflecting on your life and decided you were successful, what would be different?
Then , work towards achieving this. Also, remind yourself that others oftenb overestimate the accomplishments of their peers because they only see the glossy side of their lives. In reality, everyone has hard times and self-doubts."
Social comparisons rarely lead to happiness so, instead, focus on what's important to you. If your friends really are successfull, be happy for them!
Negative thought no.5
"PEOPLE JUST DON'T 'GET ME"
Now this (belief) might be true or it might be a misinterpretation of realityl to determine which it is, check your facts.
You can do this several ways easily.
" Is there evidence to support this belief?"
Ask your friends and family and listen to what they say.
If its not true, then stop repeating it to yourself because it'll only make you feel uncomfortable. If, on the other hand, it IS true, then you might need to take come practical steps to improve your communication or interpersonal skills."
This can be achieved by developing a more positive attitude.
Establish more realistic expectations about those around you, and help them 'get' you
" This mindset can help you achieve stronger connections with others where you're both taking responsibility for making the relationship work."
Negative thought no.6
" THE WORLD'S A TERRIBLE PLACE"
With so much happening in the world at the moment, you can be forgiven for wishing some things were different (like the state of the economy!) But it's important not to lose perspective.
" There are, and always will be, bad things going on in the world. There are, and always be, bad people, injustive, inquality and much, mcuh more.
"But there are also many good things in the world; there are poeple developing cures for illness; there are people who volunteer to save lives and help those in needl there are some who donate time, money, and resources to wonderful charities and other causes...and this occurs everyday"
If you can at least take on a balanced view of the world, you'll experience more positive emotions, which will help you make a more productive contribution to the world.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Sometimes we think so negative about ourselves. low esteem, low confidence, thinking that whats life worth living for. We get so depressed, cry every night alone, worrying so much about practically everything. Believe me. Your not the only one. However, as i went thru cleo mag, aussie, i came across this article which says the power of positive by Dr Timothy Sharp from the Happiness Institure (thehappinessinstitute.com.au) and psychologist Sharon Bent. It says its ok if we doubt at some point , but learning to recognise negative thoughts and replace them with more constructive ones, can make all the difference. So its time to quiten those "toxic" thinking patterns and let your self-confidence soar!
Negative thought no.1
" IM JUST NOT GOOD ENOUGH"
**People might develop this belief during childhood if their parents were overly criticalor set excessively high standards and says such dialogue encourages self-doubt. " It limits the person from pursuing opportunitie or connecting with people that may actually enhance their sense of self-worth, simply because they think others are ' beyond them'.
Fortunately, there ARE ways to challenge these thoughts
1. Focus on what you're good at
"Aiming for perfection often leads to avoidance, so nothing gets done; accepting something that's less than perfect (so long as you try your best) can lead to far more productivity and ultimately, more happiness."
Negative thought no.2
"ILL NEVER FIND MY SOUL MATE"
The danger with negative mindset is that it can easily create self-fulfilling prophecies.
" People who think like this develop behaviours that are unattractive, or that turn others away if there is some attraction."
Having realistiv expectations of The One- that is, that they may not necessarily be perfect-is crucial.
"Your happiness shouldn't solely depend on your relationship status.
"Embrace responsibility for your own contentment and develop strategies- that don't rely finding the One- to enhance your sense of purpose,"
" Start doing some type of volunteer wok with an organisation that you feel passionately about. You'll soon find this will give you a more positive mindset, which will make you m,ore attractive to thers- and increase your likelihood of meeting a partner."
Negative thought no.3
"I DON'T LIKE MY MIRROR IMAGE"
As women ( or even guys today), we've probably all had days when we've looked in the mirror and not loved what we saw. (to me, somedays i look fat, somedays i look thin,haha!) But are we too hard on ourselves? " Putting surgery and the like aside, we're stuck with what we have; so we wither go throught life feeling miserable about our appearance, or we can accept what we are and get on things,"
" To rid that negative voice, we should think about ourselves more than just a physical entity. "Remind yourself of what strenghts, qualities and beautiful characteristics lie within-even if they're not visible in the mirror"
"you can learn to change your thought pattern in several ways. " each time you look in the mirror, ask yourself, 'What bits do I like? How can i focus more on these bits?,"
"And to say to yourself, ' So what if I don't like what I see in the mirror, others do!" ( or vice versa=))
Negative thought No.4
" MY FRIENDS ARE MORE SUCCESSFUL"
We're all guilty of making comparisons, but it's unhealthy to do so at the expense of your own cnfidence.
Case in point L You may think your friend's prestigious, well-paying job is the souce of her happiness, leading you to question your own acheivements on the work front.(or school in that matter)
" Ask yourself, ' What does success look and sound like to me?"
" If, in one years time, your were reflecting on your life and decided you were successful, what would be different?
Then , work towards achieving this. Also, remind yourself that others oftenb overestimate the accomplishments of their peers because they only see the glossy side of their lives. In reality, everyone has hard times and self-doubts."
Social comparisons rarely lead to happiness so, instead, focus on what's important to you. If your friends really are successfull, be happy for them!
Negative thought no.5
"PEOPLE JUST DON'T 'GET ME"
Now this (belief) might be true or it might be a misinterpretation of realityl to determine which it is, check your facts.
You can do this several ways easily.
" Is there evidence to support this belief?"
Ask your friends and family and listen to what they say.
If its not true, then stop repeating it to yourself because it'll only make you feel uncomfortable. If, on the other hand, it IS true, then you might need to take come practical steps to improve your communication or interpersonal skills."
This can be achieved by developing a more positive attitude.
Establish more realistic expectations about those around you, and help them 'get' you
" This mindset can help you achieve stronger connections with others where you're both taking responsibility for making the relationship work."
Negative thought no.6
" THE WORLD'S A TERRIBLE PLACE"
With so much happening in the world at the moment, you can be forgiven for wishing some things were different (like the state of the economy!) But it's important not to lose perspective.
" There are, and always will be, bad things going on in the world. There are, and always be, bad people, injustive, inquality and much, mcuh more.
"But there are also many good things in the world; there are poeple developing cures for illness; there are people who volunteer to save lives and help those in needl there are some who donate time, money, and resources to wonderful charities and other causes...and this occurs everyday"
If you can at least take on a balanced view of the world, you'll experience more positive emotions, which will help you make a more productive contribution to the world.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
The Power Of the ORDINARY
Dr. John Ng
22.02.09
Ester 4:1-17
Introduction
*The Book of Ester tells God is still there tho there is NO MENTION of the word GOD
* Absent-Present God
* God can use ordinary people to make a difference
* You & I can make a difference
Power Of Ordinary
*One ordinary person can make a difference a) For good
b) For evil
You have the choice.
*Ester -Orphan and a refugee (scars, bad experience in her life)
*uses her
*don't underestimate the power of the ordinary just because we have an extraordinary God
*We are here by the grace of God
* God wants to use you but we must get involve
Ester 4:1 "When Mordecai learnt of all that had been done, he tore his clothes in anguish. Then he dressed in sackcloth, covered his head with ashes, and walked through the city, wailing loudly and bitterly."
* Ester didint get involve because were too fearful, too busy, too comfortable, too indiferent.
*Are you like Ester?
*We are indifferent about our indifference (I don't know, I don't care)
Ester 4: 12-13 "When Mordecai received Esther's message, he sent her this warning, "Don't imagine that you are safer than any other Jew just because you are in the royal palace."
Mordecai's Response
*Doing nothing will not do!
*God will use somebody else
*God wants to use you
Involvement is not an option
Ester 4:14 "If you keep quiet at a time like this, help will come from heaven to the Jews, and they will be saved, but you will die and you father's family will come to an end. Yet who knows- maybe it was for a time like this that you were made queen!"
*God has a plan, You are not by any chance
*have to discover what plan does God have for you
*loyal position for such a time as this
God wants to use u-thats the main story of ester
*We must sacrifice all for the King
Ester 4:15 "Ester sent Mordecai this reply "Go and gather all the Jews in Susa together ; hold a fast and pray for me. Don't eat or drink anything for three days and nights. My servant girls and i will be doing the same."
* We need God-small, weak, can God use me? YES!
* Very often we leave God out of the equation of life
Ester 5-8
*Ester not only began to pray but use the power, carefully well executed plan
*praying and planning together
*Give all you have to God!
*Important to develop ourselves -to be as good for GOD
* Nothing is more important than giving God your BEST
Ester 4 :16b " After that, I will go to the king, even thought it is against the law. If i must die for doing it, I will die."
* No guarenteed success, just be faithful & be the best you can be.
* If we don't serve, we only look inwardly & we die.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
22.02.09
Ester 4:1-17
Introduction
*The Book of Ester tells God is still there tho there is NO MENTION of the word GOD
* Absent-Present God
* God can use ordinary people to make a difference
* You & I can make a difference
Power Of Ordinary
*One ordinary person can make a difference a) For good
b) For evil
You have the choice.
*Ester -Orphan and a refugee (scars, bad experience in her life)
*uses her
*don't underestimate the power of the ordinary just because we have an extraordinary God
*We are here by the grace of God
* God wants to use you but we must get involve
Ester 4:1 "When Mordecai learnt of all that had been done, he tore his clothes in anguish. Then he dressed in sackcloth, covered his head with ashes, and walked through the city, wailing loudly and bitterly."
* Ester didint get involve because were too fearful, too busy, too comfortable, too indiferent.
*Are you like Ester?
*We are indifferent about our indifference (I don't know, I don't care)
Ester 4: 12-13 "When Mordecai received Esther's message, he sent her this warning, "Don't imagine that you are safer than any other Jew just because you are in the royal palace."
Mordecai's Response
*Doing nothing will not do!
*God will use somebody else
*God wants to use you
Involvement is not an option
Ester 4:14 "If you keep quiet at a time like this, help will come from heaven to the Jews, and they will be saved, but you will die and you father's family will come to an end. Yet who knows- maybe it was for a time like this that you were made queen!"
*God has a plan, You are not by any chance
*have to discover what plan does God have for you
*loyal position for such a time as this
God wants to use u-thats the main story of ester
*We must sacrifice all for the King
Ester 4:15 "Ester sent Mordecai this reply "Go and gather all the Jews in Susa together ; hold a fast and pray for me. Don't eat or drink anything for three days and nights. My servant girls and i will be doing the same."
* We need God-small, weak, can God use me? YES!
* Very often we leave God out of the equation of life
Ester 5-8
*Ester not only began to pray but use the power, carefully well executed plan
*praying and planning together
*Give all you have to God!
*Important to develop ourselves -to be as good for GOD
* Nothing is more important than giving God your BEST
Ester 4 :16b " After that, I will go to the king, even thought it is against the law. If i must die for doing it, I will die."
* No guarenteed success, just be faithful & be the best you can be.
* If we don't serve, we only look inwardly & we die.
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Day 24th, Feb
Seek God early.
"And in the morning, long before daylight, He got up and went out to a deserted place, and there He prayed." Mark 1:35
*When Jesus told us to abide in Him and in His Word
*Greek word meno, which is translated in Strong's concordance as " continue, dwell, endure, be present, remain, stand, tarry."
*We are to spend time with God - continually.
*When we do, we get in the flow of His plan for out day.
*We are not told just to wish for eveything to work together, instantly, perfectly.
*INSTEAD, we are told to seek Him early in the day, we will have " a word in due season" to share with others
Proverbs 15 :23 tells us " What joy it is to find just the right word for the right occasion!"
*We can SUCCEED at what God calls us to do, if we LISTEN to his instructions.
* He HAS said " If you seek me early and diligently, you WILL find me" (see Proverbs 8:17)
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
"And in the morning, long before daylight, He got up and went out to a deserted place, and there He prayed." Mark 1:35
*When Jesus told us to abide in Him and in His Word
*Greek word meno, which is translated in Strong's concordance as " continue, dwell, endure, be present, remain, stand, tarry."
*We are to spend time with God - continually.
*When we do, we get in the flow of His plan for out day.
*We are not told just to wish for eveything to work together, instantly, perfectly.
*INSTEAD, we are told to seek Him early in the day, we will have " a word in due season" to share with others
Proverbs 15 :23 tells us " What joy it is to find just the right word for the right occasion!"
*We can SUCCEED at what God calls us to do, if we LISTEN to his instructions.
* He HAS said " If you seek me early and diligently, you WILL find me" (see Proverbs 8:17)
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Monday, February 23, 2009
Great reminder!
Great reminder!
This is a very interesting article--makes your life much happier regardless of situations you are in. Read it, apply it in everyday life and you shall be a better person --manage your life , do not let situations manage yours !!!!
Subject: Fw: Discover the 90/10 Principle.
Author: Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction.You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.You curse.You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? The way you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.Why?Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.You are told you lost your job.Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
Enjoy….
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
This is a very interesting article--makes your life much happier regardless of situations you are in. Read it, apply it in everyday life and you shall be a better person --manage your life , do not let situations manage yours !!!!
Subject: Fw: Discover the 90/10 Principle.
Author: Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your reaction.You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.You curse.You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? The way you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.Why?Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day.. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.You are told you lost your job.Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
Enjoy….
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Series 2: The Secrets Of Claiming God's Blessings
Part 2: Hindrances to God's Blessings
intro:
1. God has a multitude of blessings that he wants to impart in each christian
* Many times, Christians just don't understand the extent of thses blessings
i) Pray for blessings
ii) Pray for a channel of blessings
God has the final picture/answer
TRUST him, work in accordance to his will
Hold back, afraid of the result of His will
* Christians fail to do things that God wants done, because we have our own AGENDA
*WE DENY OURSELF
2. Self- Justification
( Romans 10:3) " They have not known the way in which God puts people right with himself, and instead, they have tried to set up their own way; and so they did not submit themselves to God's way of putting people right.* God is the one writing the rules for what he wants.
*Christians minister Unbelievers
* God has the best for us
3. How to overcome the deadly sin
i) PRIDE
Perception humiliating their mistake
humble, admit, repent- GOOD LEADERSHIP
Jevovah Jireh- God out provider
God always wants the best for us -The plan that has blessed by us-but, we, our attitude, lack of trust, fear
Make a commitment-promise yourself that you want to be in the PARAMETERS>>>
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
intro:
1. God has a multitude of blessings that he wants to impart in each christian
* Many times, Christians just don't understand the extent of thses blessings
i) Pray for blessings
ii) Pray for a channel of blessings
God has the final picture/answer
TRUST him, work in accordance to his will
Hold back, afraid of the result of His will
* Christians fail to do things that God wants done, because we have our own AGENDA
*WE DENY OURSELF
2. Self- Justification
( Romans 10:3) " They have not known the way in which God puts people right with himself, and instead, they have tried to set up their own way; and so they did not submit themselves to God's way of putting people right.* God is the one writing the rules for what he wants.
*Christians minister Unbelievers
* God has the best for us
3. How to overcome the deadly sin
i) PRIDE
Perception humiliating their mistake
humble, admit, repent- GOOD LEADERSHIP
Jevovah Jireh- God out provider
God always wants the best for us -The plan that has blessed by us-but, we, our attitude, lack of trust, fear
Make a commitment-promise yourself that you want to be in the PARAMETERS>>>
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
The Secrets Of Claiming God's Blessings
Who :Pastor Ricky Ho
When : 8th Feb 09
" How can you judge if it is a curse or a blessing when you don't see the full picture"
* God is still in control - he sees the whole picture
* tough times grow tough people
* there are many unclaimed blessings we leave with God
Esau - willing to give up birthright
Jacob - unscrupolous - cheated & was cheated by Laban
Tradition of passing down family blessings.
1. Definition of blessings
Bestower of God - Beraka (OT Hebrew word)Eulogia(NT Greek Word)
Blessings & Curses are important themes in the bible
The word "bless" or "blessings" appears 460 times in the bible!
* God's blessings are far more than just money or health
* Its a blessing of hope, peace, well being & abundant life
Jeremiah 33:3 -Familiar & spectacular promise from God" Call to me, and i will answer you; I will tell you wonderful and marvellous things that you know nothing about.
* Here is a promise born out of difficult circumstances
* the people of Judah are invited to call upon Yahweh in their critical hour
* God will tell them of great things which are inaccessible to men
Economic crisis. What are we gona do about it? Pray?
2 Basic implications Jeremiah 33 :3
* Prayer becomes "a PORTAL" to the blessings of God
1) " Call unto me & I will answer"
* Not only did God say he would answer Jeremiah but he said he would also show great things he didin't know.
* Its exiting to learn new things
* God reveals the pit of relationships
* Would you like for God to show you things you don't know?
* Would you like for Him to help you understand your relationship better?
* Would you like for him to help you understand your finances better?
Feng shui's master don't see the big picture
All you have to do is call because he promises if you do he will answer
(James 4:2) " You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have what you want because you do not ask God for it."
Answered prayer is one of life's most rewarding experiences!
Daniel 2 - Nebuchadnezzar's Dream - All fortune tellers could not interpret
Daniel and his friends prayed & God reveal ACCURATELY
Especially when the answers are greater than we imagined!
Jesus-great teacher, great preacher
disciples did not ask him to teach to preach, but to pray
Many times, we forgot to claim the blessings of God.
Don't ever hesitate to ask him to help!
Only if you ask ME to help you, where you will use your own full strength (yrs + Gods)
Love your enemies. Do not repay a curse with a curse
Ask God to help you through the year
2) Call to me & I will ans- its not the problem of UNANSWERED prayer but UNASKED prayer
* We suffer from a radical case of self -sufficiency
Wilbur Resse" We want estasy, not transformation, we want the warmth of the womb and not new birth"
Acts 4 -So, we pray enough to get by, not to go forward
Conclusion
What " unclaimed blessings" of God we've missed by not asking for them?Let's not let our blessings remain unclaimedLet's begin today claiming then by calling on God!We won't relised how much we missed until we're away
Don't take each other for granted in a family relationship with God
NEXT.....Hindrances on claiming God's Blessings
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
When : 8th Feb 09
" How can you judge if it is a curse or a blessing when you don't see the full picture"
* God is still in control - he sees the whole picture
* tough times grow tough people
* there are many unclaimed blessings we leave with God
Esau - willing to give up birthright
Jacob - unscrupolous - cheated & was cheated by Laban
Tradition of passing down family blessings.
1. Definition of blessings
Bestower of God - Beraka (OT Hebrew word)Eulogia(NT Greek Word)
Blessings & Curses are important themes in the bible
The word "bless" or "blessings" appears 460 times in the bible!
* God's blessings are far more than just money or health
* Its a blessing of hope, peace, well being & abundant life
Jeremiah 33:3 -Familiar & spectacular promise from God" Call to me, and i will answer you; I will tell you wonderful and marvellous things that you know nothing about.
* Here is a promise born out of difficult circumstances
* the people of Judah are invited to call upon Yahweh in their critical hour
* God will tell them of great things which are inaccessible to men
Economic crisis. What are we gona do about it? Pray?
2 Basic implications Jeremiah 33 :3
* Prayer becomes "a PORTAL" to the blessings of God
1) " Call unto me & I will answer"
* Not only did God say he would answer Jeremiah but he said he would also show great things he didin't know.
* Its exiting to learn new things
* God reveals the pit of relationships
* Would you like for God to show you things you don't know?
* Would you like for Him to help you understand your relationship better?
* Would you like for him to help you understand your finances better?
Feng shui's master don't see the big picture
All you have to do is call because he promises if you do he will answer
(James 4:2) " You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have what you want because you do not ask God for it."
Answered prayer is one of life's most rewarding experiences!
Daniel 2 - Nebuchadnezzar's Dream - All fortune tellers could not interpret
Daniel and his friends prayed & God reveal ACCURATELY
Especially when the answers are greater than we imagined!
Jesus-great teacher, great preacher
disciples did not ask him to teach to preach, but to pray
Many times, we forgot to claim the blessings of God.
Don't ever hesitate to ask him to help!
Only if you ask ME to help you, where you will use your own full strength (yrs + Gods)
Love your enemies. Do not repay a curse with a curse
Ask God to help you through the year
2) Call to me & I will ans- its not the problem of UNANSWERED prayer but UNASKED prayer
* We suffer from a radical case of self -sufficiency
Wilbur Resse" We want estasy, not transformation, we want the warmth of the womb and not new birth"
Acts 4 -So, we pray enough to get by, not to go forward
Conclusion
What " unclaimed blessings" of God we've missed by not asking for them?Let's not let our blessings remain unclaimedLet's begin today claiming then by calling on God!We won't relised how much we missed until we're away
Don't take each other for granted in a family relationship with God
NEXT.....Hindrances on claiming God's Blessings
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
UNpacking God's Word
Just 2 days ago..thats on the 7th of feb 2009, Mike G. spoke for the Methodist Youth Fellowship in Trinity Methodist Church. The title was as mentioned-Unpacking God's Word=)
This is thus the summary of it.
God's Word- Reading/ Getting into it
ok , picture a box...where someone give it to you and says
" This is my gift to you"
1. we try and open it up without using a hammer and other tools
2. some will be walking around, not knowing what to do
3. and some sitting down, waiting for others to open it.
IT IS THE SAME WITH THE BIBLE
Some also treat as a lucky charm
"My bible is at the back of my car because my car won't be stolen as the word is at the back of my car"
Conclusion?
Some ppl like youth group's, cgs abuse the word of GOD
-A gift that is not open is USELESS
-some may not have the right TOOLS to open it
So.....what are the tools?
1. Learn some Jewish History, Culture & Geography
Book of Jonah 1:1-4
" One day, the Lord spoke to Jonah son of Amittai. He said, " Go to Nineveh, that great city, and speak out against it; I am aware how wicked its people are." Jonah, however, set out in the opposite direction in order to get away from the Lord. He went to Joppa, he found a ship about to go to Spain. He paid his fare and went aboard with the crew to sail to Spain, where he would be away from the Lord. But the Lord sent a strong wind on the sea, and the storm was so violent that the ship was in danger of breaking up."
Jonah ran away because Nineveh was not a comfy place.
* Nineveh hated the Israelites and he may loose his own life.
Isaiah spoke to the comfort of his own people-Israelites. Not Jonah..
Jonah was RICH because he could afford a fair far away (Opposite site of Nineveh)
$ = choices
We dont need to follow God because we got a degree, $ etc.
2. Look up, Look down
Read the verse above and below (the context)
1 verse changes the situation so look at the verse before and after.
3. Irony
What you expect doesnt quiet happen the way it is.
Jonah reminds us of Jesus.
Jonah 1:5b says Meanwhile, Jonah had gone below and was lying in the ship's hold, sound asleep.
Matthew 8 :24 says Suddenly a fierce storm hit the lake, and the boat was in danger of sinking. But Jesus was asleep
Jonah doesnt wanna preach to pagans but pagans are the oes that tried to safe him (Row offshore not throw him)
IRONY!
Jonah sacrificed-jumped off the boat
Jesus sacrificed- died on the cross
Matthew 16 : 23,24
" Jesus turned around and said to Peter," Get away from me, Satan! You are an obstacle in my way, because there thoughts of yours don't come from God but from man." Then Jesus said to his disciples, " If anyone wants tocome with me, he must forget self, carry his cross, and follow me.
Crucifixion -painfull ( take up your cross -something weird)
Matthew 27 :27-43
Irony = Jesus is still the King of the Jews
Should be dress in scarlet from day 1
He rebuild the temple
He is the Son of God
He was delivered
If he came down from the cross -there would be no salvation
nails did not keep him on the cross, its his LOVE
You got the gift of eternal life when you unpacked God's word
You may not know what he's doing but he does =)
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
This is thus the summary of it.
God's Word- Reading/ Getting into it
ok , picture a box...where someone give it to you and says
" This is my gift to you"
1. we try and open it up without using a hammer and other tools
2. some will be walking around, not knowing what to do
3. and some sitting down, waiting for others to open it.
IT IS THE SAME WITH THE BIBLE
Some also treat as a lucky charm
"My bible is at the back of my car because my car won't be stolen as the word is at the back of my car"
Conclusion?
Some ppl like youth group's, cgs abuse the word of GOD
-A gift that is not open is USELESS
-some may not have the right TOOLS to open it
So.....what are the tools?
1. Learn some Jewish History, Culture & Geography
Book of Jonah 1:1-4
" One day, the Lord spoke to Jonah son of Amittai. He said, " Go to Nineveh, that great city, and speak out against it; I am aware how wicked its people are." Jonah, however, set out in the opposite direction in order to get away from the Lord. He went to Joppa, he found a ship about to go to Spain. He paid his fare and went aboard with the crew to sail to Spain, where he would be away from the Lord. But the Lord sent a strong wind on the sea, and the storm was so violent that the ship was in danger of breaking up."
Jonah ran away because Nineveh was not a comfy place.
* Nineveh hated the Israelites and he may loose his own life.
Isaiah spoke to the comfort of his own people-Israelites. Not Jonah..
Jonah was RICH because he could afford a fair far away (Opposite site of Nineveh)
$ = choices
We dont need to follow God because we got a degree, $ etc.
2. Look up, Look down
Read the verse above and below (the context)
1 verse changes the situation so look at the verse before and after.
3. Irony
What you expect doesnt quiet happen the way it is.
Jonah reminds us of Jesus.
Jonah 1:5b says Meanwhile, Jonah had gone below and was lying in the ship's hold, sound asleep.
Matthew 8 :24 says Suddenly a fierce storm hit the lake, and the boat was in danger of sinking. But Jesus was asleep
Jonah doesnt wanna preach to pagans but pagans are the oes that tried to safe him (Row offshore not throw him)
IRONY!
Jonah sacrificed-jumped off the boat
Jesus sacrificed- died on the cross
Matthew 16 : 23,24
" Jesus turned around and said to Peter," Get away from me, Satan! You are an obstacle in my way, because there thoughts of yours don't come from God but from man." Then Jesus said to his disciples, " If anyone wants tocome with me, he must forget self, carry his cross, and follow me.
Crucifixion -painfull ( take up your cross -something weird)
Matthew 27 :27-43
Irony = Jesus is still the King of the Jews
Should be dress in scarlet from day 1
He rebuild the temple
He is the Son of God
He was delivered
If he came down from the cross -there would be no salvation
nails did not keep him on the cross, its his LOVE
You got the gift of eternal life when you unpacked God's word
You may not know what he's doing but he does =)
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
Everything...
...has its pros and cons,its how you deal with it"=)
-quoted and reminded-
**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**
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