Mind Your Language

Dr Lee Bee Teik

MYF meeting

28th March 2009



Many ways God can get his msg across

*Dance

*Music

*Song

*Language



Conflicts-2 or more ppl meet

God gives us gifts-Ephesians 4:14-16 Then we shall no longer be children, carried by the waves and blown about by every shifting wind of the teaching of deceitful men, who lead others into error by the tricks they invent. Instead, by speaking the truth in a spirit of love, we must grow up in every way to Christ, who is the head. Under his control all the different parts of the body fit together, and the whole body is held together by every joint with which it is provided. So when each separate part works as it should, the whole body grows and builds itself up through love

*Speaking the truth in love-truthing in love
*We can't be revealed about everything
*They are one- because they do everything together, Don't quarrel
*Noone has a perfect relationship together
*Not only reflect the image of God in relationships to your spouse, parents, friends, couples but to the community as well
*We need to come to our language through each other -gift of God.
*Speech-to many take it lightly

Colossians 4:5-6 Be wise in the way you act towards those who are not believers, making good use of every opportunity you have. Your speech should always be pleasant and interesting, and you sould know how to give the right answer to everyone.

A. Why Should We Discuss Speech?
3 reasons
Genesis 1:26 Then God said, " And now we will make human beings; they will be like us and resemble us. They will have power over the fish, the birds, and all animals, domestic and wild, large and small."

Genesis 3:8-9 That evening they heard the Lord God walking in the garden, and the hid from him among the trees. But the Lord God called out to the man, " Where are you?"

Genesis 18 A Son Is Promised To Abraham

Exodus 3:6 I am the God of your ancestors, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob." So Moses covered his face, because he was afraid to look at God.

B. 3 Factors Influencing Speech and Relationships

Temparament + Character = Personality

Temparament - unique basics creation gifts
Character - how we manage our temparament

Extrovert -the more voice the better
introvert - recharge their energy without using external stimules

to conterfeit it

Extroverts should learn to be quiet sometimes
Introverts should get enough rest but once in a while come out of the nutshell too

2 ways to make decsions
-in a logical way
- in a subjective/rational

the world tends to respect thinking more than feeling

4 Functions that effect how to speak
*Temparament
*Gender
*Conversation skills - small talk to fill in time
control talk(words use to influence)- heavy control talk & light control talk
search talk (use to obtain information)
straight talk - go straight and tell the person off - speaking the truth inlove


*The word affect relationships
We are encourage to be natural but do remember to use your strength instead of your weaknessess.
You can allow weakness to push to sin
Jesus have inperfect parents but he didin't allow weakness to push into sin
We have to control- matter of character and attitude
Jesus doens't condemn us.- confession, ask for forgiveness
quiet time- help us relate
practise speech to God


C. What Shall We Do Then?
Psalm 141:3 Lord, place a guard at my mouth, a sentry at the door ofmy lips.

John 3:16-17 For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who beleves in him may not die but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to be its judge, but to be its saviour.

John 2:24-25 But Jesus did not trust himself to them, because he knew them all. There was no need for anyone to tell him about them, because he himself knew what was in their hearts.

Revelations 3:20 Listen! I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come into his house and eat with him, and he will eat with me.

Exodus 3 & 4 God Calls Moses and God Gives Moses Miraculous Power

1 Samuel 3:10 The Lord came and stood there, and called as he had before, " Samuel! Samuel!" Samuel answered, " Speak; your sevant is listening."

1 Samuel 3:19-21 As Samuel grew up, the Lord was with him and made everything that Samuel said come true. So all the people of Israel, from one end of the counrty to the other, knew that Samuel was indeed a prophet of the Lord. The Lord continued to reveal himself at Shiloh, where he had appeared to Samuel and had spoken to him. And when Samuel spoke, all Israel listened.



To me, communication is the key point to all relationships. The way we talk, how our body language is towards others means a lot to the other person. When facing conflict, one way to face it is to tell him/her directly alone how you feel, speak in a gentle manner without raising your voice or ask questions that would clear your doubts. Be understanding towards each other and always put yourself in that person's shoes. Always, be straight forward, clear your doubts before more conflicts and problems and uneasiness starts pilling up. This is make yourself and the other person better. This is the real meaning of speaking the truth in love.Most importantly, always keep the communication going on by spending time with the person and also, give and take. That is why we are always called to spend as much time with our family, friends, spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend because that will keep the relationship going and especially spend some time with the word or praying to our eternal FATHER in heaven.




**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**