When you no longer feel in love

Sunday 12th June

Sorry to backtrack a little.

*Vulnerable, committed, fit in more, carry post hurt is more when you fall in love
*Being attracted to things and people is very easy. It is a chemical thing
*Proverbs 15:17: Better a small serving of vegetables with love 
   than a fattened calf with hatred.

*Genesis 2: Thus the heavens and the earth were completed in all their vast array.
 ² By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. ³ Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.

Adam and Eve

 ⁴ This is the account of the heavens and the earth when they were created, when the LORD God made the earth and the heavens. ⁵ Now no shrub had yet appeared on the earth^[a] and no plant had yet sprung up, for the LORD God had not sent rain on the earth and there was no one to work the ground, ⁶ but streams^[b] came up from the earth and watered the whole surface of the ground. ⁷ Then the LORD God formed a man^[c]from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.
 ⁸ Now the LORD God had planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed. ⁹ The LORD God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.
 ¹⁰ A river watering the garden flowed from Eden; from there it was separated into four headwaters. ¹¹The name of the first is the Pishon; it winds through the entire land of Havilah, where there is gold. ¹²(The gold of that land is good; aromatic resin^[d] and onyx are also there.) ¹³ The name of the second river is the Gihon; it winds through the entire land of Cush.^[e] 14 The name of the third river is the Tigris; it runs along the east side of Ashur. And the fourth river is the Euphrates.
 ¹⁵ The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. ¹⁶And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; ¹⁷ but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”
 ¹⁸ The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
 ¹⁹ Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. ²⁰ So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.
   But for Adam^[f] no suitable helper was found. ²¹ So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs^[g] and then closed up the place with flesh. ²² Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib^[h] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
 ²³ The man said,
   “This is now bone of my bones
   and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
   for she was taken out of man.”
 ²⁴ That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
 ²⁵ Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

*Men and women are made very differently and individually but need to compliment each other

*Song of Solomon 4:10: How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! 
   How much more pleasing is your love than wine,
and the fragrance of your perfume    more than any spice!

*Song of Solomon 8:6: Place me like a seal over your heart, 
   like a seal on your arm;
for love is as strong as death,
   its jealousy^[a] unyielding as the grave.
It burns like blazing fire,
   like a mighty flame.^[b

Barriers
We are all broke people
*The more broken we are, the more tension is created
*People will become hard hearted
*The cycle of brokenness will be lingering
*The good news is Jesus died

We live in a culture that promotes temporary things
*leads to a relationship

FAI = R

Freedom. Authority. Information = Responsibility

*Human world- the sexualize culture is so open that corrupts the world even more
*Low threshold of relationship pain
*No relationship is free from conflict
*That is the beauty of it, we can compromise in a relationship
*It is hard to compromise because our culture is not expose to it and we are broken but it is worth it
*When Christ comes, he will teach us to live our culture but it will never go away

*1 John 5:3-4: ³ In fact, this is love for God: to keep his commands. And his commands are not burdensome, ⁴ for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. 


*Love is a verb. It requires action
*In love is a noun
*If you feel no love, you do loving things to another person

*Ephesians 5:21-33: ²¹ Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

 ²² Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. ²³ For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. ²⁴ Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

 ²⁵ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her ²⁶ to make her holy, cleansing^[a] her by the washing with water through the word, ²⁷ and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. ²⁸ In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. ²⁹ After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— ³⁰ for we are members of his body. ³¹ “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”^[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. ³³ However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

*Submit may mean defeating yourself and giving in but in biblical description is to respect and put the other person in front of yourself
*When two people do that, then it is awesome
*Competition has to be removed
*Doing things that you hate for them so that they will appreciate you

5 love languages
1. Quality Time
2. Receiving Gifts
3. Words of affirmation
4. Acts of service
5. Physical Touch

*It would not be a command if we can do it naturally
*If it was not commanded, would we do it?
*Christ does that for us- He knocks and longs us to come to Him
*Substitution exchange
- For Christ to love us, we have to sacrifice something, which is Jesus
- For us to love each other, we both have to sacrifice everything for each other and whatever our partner sacrifice becomes a blessing to us.


**Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path**